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When you stop yelling at the child and opt for other educational methods


Educating children is complicated. In addition, it is something that is very tiring, but in doing so there is a great reward.

It is true that fathers and mothers do not always educate as they would like. Sometimes due to fatigue, others due to lack of time, or even due to the child's own character. But what must be clear is that shouting will not be an adequate educational resource, neither for the child nor for the parents. On our site we show you what happens when you stop yelling at the child and opt for other educational methods.

Many adults resort to shouting because they see many supposed “advantages” in it, such as that it is a quick, easy-to-use resource. Thanks to this method, short-term objectives are achieved, it instills authority, and so on.

In addition, screaming may seem harmless and may be the product of a moment of anger, but it can affect children on a psychological level to their behavior.

The screams are often accompanied by threats, disqualifications and in the end they are still a way of manifesting violence, not physical, but psychological. In this way we can see yelling only causes harm and negative consequences in the education of children, What:

  • Deterioration of your self-esteem.
  • The child gets used to aggressive behaviors and adopts them to use them in his relationships with peers.
  • Yelling causes stress for the child.

Yelling is a habit that adults should get rid of and create a healthier one. Stopping yelling will not be easy because it supposes adults to have great self-control over their emotions. It will be a training that takes time. To do this, it will be necessary:

  • Keep calm When it comes to giving an order, your child listens well, so you should not raise your voice, much less scream. Talk calmly with your child.
  • Try to generate respect. Your child is likely to obey in the middle when you raise your voice or yell at them. However, this disappears when adolescence arrives because fear disappears and, then, respect is lost. Therefore, it is necessary for your little one to know that you are an authority and should obey when you order something calmly.
  • Speak positively. Instead of saying, "I'm not going to let you do this," speak positively: "You're a good kid and I know you wouldn't want to be doing what you do." Change the context of your words.
  • Give a valid explanation. Many parents make the mistake of saying to their children: I'm in charge here. This is not an argument, so it is important to give a good, clear and precise reason so that your child understands and repairs what he is doing.
  • Put yourself in your child's place. Don't forget that children are children. Put yourself in their shoes and see things from your child's point of view.

Using another type of educational model away from screaming can provide development benefits for children and also for the adults who are responsible for raising children. Among them we find the following:

  • Development of responsibility. Children can understand the consequences of their actions, they act freely knowing how far they can go. With a discipline based on shouting they can never understand why they have to act in a certain way.
  • They understand the rules and commit. With educational models based on shouting and threats, children receive the imposed norms and do not compromise. On the other hand, with educational alternatives such as positive discipline, they can do it.
  • Alternative models favor the emotional health of the child. This type of model contributes to the development of a healthy self-esteem and favors the management of emotions in the child by developing their emotional intelligence.
  • They learn to be independent. The alternative models help the child to know how to pursue their own goals and to know what they want for themselves.
  • The bond between parents and children is strengthened. With alternative methods, children perceive that they are important, loved, and cared for. Assertive communication, empathy and collaboration favor this affective bond.

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